We are all interconnected.
Intuitively, we all know the play of life is woven together like the threads of intricate embroidery.
We know that with every moment of our existence, we influence the world around us and it influences us in turn—a natural symbiosis operating on a physical, mental and energetic level.
However, over time we become conditioned to accept the illusion of separation.
Our conditioning can reinforce to us that we should be entirely self-sufficient and that accepting help from others is a weakness. Femininity can bring us deeply into the role of the nurturer: becoming selfless, inherently focused on helping others. When this trait becomes imbalanced, it leads to a constant sacrifice of your needs and desires in relationship. This is an imbalance tipping the scales to excessive independence.
On the other end of the spectrum, we may feel that without our relationships, we have lost meaning and purpose in our lives. We feel threatened when we do not receive the love we expect from others because we then feel an absence of love inside of us. Tipping the scales to excessive dependence.
As a Wylde Woman, you are capable of embracing a sense of balanced interdependence. In this state of being, you recognize that companionship is a sacred opportunity. It allows us to overflow the love that we feel for life, and for our deepest selves, into another being.
We spill our love into those who reflect our humanity back to us, all while maintaining the knowledge that love is sourced from within our own center of self. Because in that center, we are inseparable from all expressions of life.
Interdependence gives us space to grow as well as to support others’ growth. Be loved as well as to love. Unconditionally.
This give and take is naturally drawn into balance when you address the conditioning you’ve developed throughout your life that leans to either independence or dependence. Based on your unique inclination, you can use the practices below to discover the beauty and simplicity of your own interdependence:
Reach out unapologetically – Ask a loving human for help when you usually wouldn’t. Witness the feelings that arise before, during and after this practice. Acknowledge any intense needs to “handle everything on your own”. See what happens when you release that restriction. Just this once.
Unveil your desires – Take refuge in your journal, releasing all of your desires onto paper as if you are talking directly to a loved one. Then go back over them and ask yourself which of the desires you’re afraid to say out loud. And why.
Embrace stillness – Consciously choose to be immersed in your own energy when you usually wouldn’t. Stay in alone on a Friday night or go to that workshop even though your friend can’t make it. How does it feel to just be with yourself? Start nestling into your own presence, and discover the love already waiting for you within.
Uncover your roots – Meditate on what you source from your relationship with others. Do you give love with the expectation that it must be returned? Who are you if these relationships are not in your life? How much love are you giving yourself? If you prefer to use an external aid, try stream of consciousness writing or intuitive Tarot reading.
No matter what imbalance you may have previously been conditioned to operate within, the truth is that you are never alone. You are living in constant tandem with everything else on Earth through the ebb and flow of daily life. To come home to this truth, you can also begin to practice related affirmations such as:
- “I am always worthy of love.”
- “My deepest self is one with every form of life.”
Or, my personal favourite:
Thank you for doing the inner work to uncover our universal connection. It may not be easy to embrace this feminine principle in a world that often clings to separation. But don’t you see, Wylde Woman? This is the soil in which your greatest strength blooms.